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Formula for Change:

Step One:

Assessment of the situation – what is true now & what are the desired goals or results
Here is the start. What is it that you want to be different? You need to discover and be very specific about what is the current situation and how do you want it to be different. To do this, use your Coach's assessment and gather input from all interested and involved parties.

Step Two:

Learning – techniques, tools, etc.
Discover what you need to learn and how to learn it. To do this you need to talk with people. A mentor relationship may be the key to new ideas. Coaching may provide the push. Peers may have advise, opinions, or ideas that you need. Classes, books, or articles may help.

Step Three:

Practice – take action & pay attention

This is a key. You need to take action to have change come about. It does not happen by itself. Use the familiar settings to practice. Or look for new settings to try out your change.

Step Four:

Feedback – score results against goals
Always utilize your own self-analysis – check in with your self right after your practice to see if you obtained the desired results. Independent observers can also be helpful. Pick someone you trust and which opinion you value and ask them to observe you. Then afterward ask for their feedback. Also important is to utilize your Coach's observations and feedback.

Now based upon results you obtain and feedback, go back to either more Learning and / or more Practice. Do not be hard on yourself and keep this cycle up until you obtain your goal. …

Whether you are planning a class reunion or a family reunion, one of the biggest obstacles to overcome is how to get people to purchase tickets for the event.

Planning a reunion is hard enough, but when you don’t know how many people to expect, it is next to impossible. It is very important to know well in advance how many people are coming to the reunion events you are planning. How else can you predict the size of the space you should rent, the amount of food to order, and what kind of entertainment to book?

The following 5 tips are essential if you want to make your life easier as the organizer of your class reunion or family reunion.

1. Generate a lot of interest for the reunion. The best way to do this is to create a class reunion website or family reunion website where you can communicate all of the details of events, and entertain everyone with some great content from years gone by. There are reunion website builders that require no special skills or knowledge to make a professional website that will help in the entire planning process and increase attendance at the reunion.

2. Guarantee your guests that if the reunion ends up getting cancelled they will get a refund. This is another concern that many people have, so if you alleviate this worry, you remove another excuse they may have not to pay for their ticket.

3. Come up with some incentives for people to commit early to the reunion. Offer people an early bird special, and discount the price for people who purchase their tickets by a certain date.

4. Offer people who buy tickets by a certain date a chance at entering a draw to win a prize if they buy their tickets by a certain date. The prize can be a free ticket to the event or a gift that you are able to get for free from a member of the committee.

5. Give people several options to pay for a ticket. That means allowing people to send a check by mail, pay cash in person or pay with a credit card on your class reunion website or family reunion website. Paying by credit card is much easier than writing a check, so if you only accept checks you give people another reason to procrastinate and put off making a decision about coming to the reunion or not.

Another great reason to create a reunion website is that people like to know who else is coming to the reunion. Encourage people to spread the word about the reunion website and update their profiles so people can connect before the big event.…

If you were to ask me to pick one factor that was responsible for conflict–I’d have to choose miscommunication, hands-down, as the primary factor. Why? Because miscommunication opens up the triangle of other factors that inevitably leads to conflict.

Let us discuss this miscommunication conflict triangle. Picture a triangle with miscommunication taking one side, fear taking another, and assumption taking the third side.

Miscommunication

How does miscommunication happen? It happens when one side doesn’t communicate enough information to us, or we misinterpret the real meaning of their words. In either case, we get a different meaning of their words than they intended. With the advent of e-mail and IM chat, this is a becoming a common problem now-a-days because type-based communication is asynchronous communication, meaning that people do not communicate in real time–its essentially a telegram. Asynchronous communication does not allow for immediate feedback response, so our minds have to interpret what the other person is saying based upon their typed words alone. Although most common in typed-based communication, miscommunication can also occur in any type of communication setting. Another common type of miscommunication is no communication or a lack of communication.

Fear

People always fear the worst outcome. In miscommunication, the mind will fill in the missing information with their own creative insight, which is often fear-based. Think of the husband who is out late and forgets to call his wife. Because there is a lack of communication there, she begins to worry and her mind immediately switches to fear mode. Self-talk occurs and it takes the form of her own fears. Did something happen to him? Is he cheating on me? Our minds will always think of the worst possible outcomes based on our fears and insecurities.

Assumption Believed As Truth

Our minds need logical explanations to events. One of our most basic needs is the need to have answers and the need for reasons and explanations. Absent those needs, our minds switch to a fear-based mode where we have to satisfy our need for answers with that of assumption. Assumption is a derivative of fear because we always assume the worst based on our fears and insecurities. Assumption therefore fulfills our need for a logical explanation for the unexplainable event and we tend to become locked into that assumption, believing it as truth. The wife, who might be insecure about their relationship, might remember the time when she caught her husband flirting with the secretary, and her fears will drive her to make the assumption that her husband must have gone out to meet her.

What To Do?

When we are faced with miscommunication, we must keep our minds open to additional possibilities without adopting a certain truth about the other person until we know exactly from them what they are thinking. How can this be accomplished? Well, your fears and assumptions will automatically kick in. There is no way to fend against that because that is how our minds are wired. Instead of adopting those assumptions …