Redefining the Meaning of Success
For the longest time, I always thought that success in life meant financial success. I mean, most of us would love to live in a huge home located on a sunny beach and do not have to worry about finding enough money to just to pay the bills each month. I soon realized that that fame and fortune does not dissolve away the problems associated with a troubled life. With suicides and drug problems associated with some high-profile people, I had to rethink my former notice of what success exactly is. This fact was further brought to light by a client of mine who was a self-made millionaire at a very young age and had a tremendous amount of success in business, but as I soon found out, his personal life was littered with drugs, adultery , and alcohol.
So I began to think, "Well, maybe money has nothing to do with success." This idea lead me to an old gentleman named Carlos, who in his 60s, was a happy and friendly person, but also very poor by most standards. Carlos had a large family and was the proud grandfather of six beautiful grandschildren. Carlos unfortunately passed away a year after I had met him and despite he lead a happy life, I could not help but feel a sense of loss for his family who now struggled to make ends meet. Although Carlos led a happy life, the absence of money in his life brought a level of stress and pain to his final legacy and for his family. I determined that the feeling of happiness alone, just like money, was not enough to qualify as being successful in life.
So what is success then if it is either feeling happy, nor wealth alone? I had to discover for myself that success involves not only completing the things that you plan on doing in life, but also planning on completing the things in life that are important to your values as a person. These values are made up of:
o Physical health
o Professional growth and development
o Spiritual growth
o Financial security
o Personal development
o Relationship maintenance
o Love and romance
I have found that success does not require vast wealth, nor does it require you to have a fitness model body. Success in life, means that you have achieved your own optimal balance between all of the above-stated components. In this model of success, one can not focus on just making money because it would cause the other components to significantly drop. This model of success means that the person does not focus solely on money, but instead shares a more bountiful marriage, or establishes better relationships and leaves this world a happy person.
So as a Personal Development Coach, I recommend that you should assess where you are at current with respect to the above-stated components of your legacy. It's natural that some might be higher or lower than others. It becomes your task to identify which ones are significantly higher and lower than others and focus on bringing those values which are low up to a higher level. That is the path towards success in life.