It is the end of January and what has happened with your ‘new years resolutions’? Have what most people consider their goals, gone by the wayside already? What about other goals you set throughout the year – do they come to fruition or do you falter on those? When we fail to achieve our goals not only do we fail to achieve the changes we identified as being desirable (the purpose of the goals) but we also do our self-esteem harm. If you have tried to lose weigh every year for the last twenty years and not achieved what you set out to do, you may feel a failure. Why bother this year… you never win? Sound familiar?
There are many reasons why people fail to achieve their goals. The top ten reasons are listed below. Have any of these held you back in the past? Identifying what it is that prevents you following through and successfully implementing changes in your life might be what helps you succeed with your next goal.
- Waiting for something to happen? I will start on Monday; I will start once the kids go back to school. When you first set a goal you are most passionate about it. Start then. The longer you wait to start, the less likely you will be to get things done. Starting, even a first step, builds momentum.
- Not knowing what you want. In our society thinking of others before yourself is encouraged and thought of as praise worthy. We are not encouraged to know ourselves and to pursue our dreams, those things that make us happy. Constantly putting oneself last makes it difficult for you to truly identify what you want and what your priorities for your life are. Goals you set that actually represent what other people want will rarely come to fruition. Your goals have to represent what you want. Learn to dream.
- Thinking you need to tackle the whole project at once. Sometimes the sheer size of a project can be daunting and discouraging. By breaking a large project into smaller task, setting milestones along the way and celebrating the achievement of each milestone keeps us motivated and makes achieving a large project much more likely. Take a bite and chew, then take another bite…
- Failing to set goals. Some free spirits believe that setting goals would impose a rigidity on their life that they resist strongly. Setting goals does not constrain you or take away from your freedom. In fact it helps gain clarity and increases your personal freedom. 90 percent of people who set goals achieve them. Everyone’s life is directed by goals so remember if you don’t live your life by your goals, you will be living by someone else’s.
- Fear of failure. Some of our best lessons in life come from learning from our mistakes, yet we as a society place such a stigma on ‘making a mistake’ that they indulge in blame and self-criticism when ever things don’t go as