Principles behind personal and self mastery are actually fundamental concepts that are essential when building professional, social, interpersonal, and spiritual relationships. The first principle stresses being aware of how you define success. In personal mastery, along with its central component of emotional mastery, internal change, in the here-and-now is actually more important than what has happened in your past.
Personal mastery is also based on how you have come to define and understand your own reality – what it is you believe about your life right now, about yourself and about others. Personal mastery is central to how you think and what you believe and the level to which you are or are not aware of your own thoughts and their effect on how you feel and even more importantly how your thoughts and feelings play themselves out with others.
7 Central Principles of Personal Mastery
- Set goals for yourself and take action to achieve them
- Be open to learning how to deal effectively with difficult and challenging situations
- Identify positive behaviour and feelings and validate yourself
- Challenge your thoughts by looking for “objective” evidence for against what you believe
- Let go of negativity that can keep you stuck in resentment and blame
- Develop and nurture an inquisitive mind-set and an attitude of gratitude
- Learn to ask skillful questions of yourself that will help you understand yourself better
It is important for you to invest your time in and energy on things that you can control. This means focusing on yourself and what you want to change and not focusing on trying to change or fix anyone else. It is important to let go of any proclivity to have a reactive attitude that can lead to feelings of resentment, rejection-sensitivity, negativity, blame, and shame, that are obstacles to healthy change and that can keep you stuck in repeating old and worn out patterns of relating that cause you to continue suffer. When you are invested in suffering, it is suffering that you master. Not personal self and emotional mastery.
Another principle behind self mastery is understanding that what happens to in your life is based on your own choices – accepting personal responsibility is the way to create change moving forward in your life. Decisions about your life need to be made by you in a conscious and aware way. A proactive way. Not a reactive way.
Having a clear vision of what you want and what you need to learn more about to achieve your goals is also very central to building your personal mastery. After identifying your goals it is important to create a plan of action that will help you to achieve your goals. Taking action steps toward the achievement of your goals is the way to apply your vision, values, and principles to your self-improvement, emotional and personal mastery. Mastery means you are continuing to build and strengthen your emotional, psychological, and psychosocial competence.
Overall, an individual who actively engages his or her own process of personal mastery will be able to raise self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-responsibility. The central gift, of the process of and engagement in personal mastery, is that individuals will recognize that they are part of a bigger picture in life – connected to humanity. As you continue to know more about who you are you will also be forging a deeper connection to others.
Personal mastery is something that does not happen unintentionally or overnight. It requires discipline and reinforcement, mindful conscious intention and attention. It needs to be nurtured. Each person who is on the path of personal mastery can benefit from personal coaching and/or counselling to make sure that what they continue to learn about in the process of transformative change and healing of personal mastery is supported and validated in ways that increase awareness and confidence in navigating all the new and wonderful ways that each person will come to better know him/herself.
Personal mastery helps each person, on this journey in his or her life, understand that life is full of opportunities for expanding individual vision and skills in ways that can transform pain and suffering in ways that increase personal enlightenment, emotional, psychological, intellectual, and spiritual balance. This expanding consciousness and the ways that it can transform suffering into aware living that is competence being strengthened and supported in action is life in the flow of Grace.