FRIENDSHIP is the topic that I have been mulling about for some time. Some of you, my dear readers, who have been asking me to write on this topic where you wanted me to, address a Friendship from the platform of Personal Intimacy and Platonic Relationships. Whatever I have written here is just a representation of things that I gathered during my course of reading and research. This is bit complicated to articulate though. Let me try!
Can these TWO be part of a Friendship? Or Can any ONE be part of a Friendship? Or Can these TWO be independent of a Friendship?
In my experience, I have noticed that, post our school/college days, once we are into job and get going in life, most of the Friendships start as either “professional” or to certain extent “emotional” and are substantially “intellectual.”
But, many people to whom I have spoken on this topic have told me one thing in common – They did not find one which is more of “Intimate and Personal” as the ones that they enjoyed and experienced while they were in school/ college times.
Let me articulate – when I say “Professional”, you got it, Professional friends one meet at their company, at a networking function, or elsewhere in the industry one works. A professional friend knows specifically what one does during working hours and knows various key facts about ones career.
When I say “Emotional” – this undercurrent involves, Feelings, relationships, someone you’d call on a weekend when you’re extra happy or extra sad. Emotional connection usually requires significant amounts of time spent with the person. These can be from any walk of life!
When I say “Intellectual” – Philosophy, analytical disagreements, industry contacts, meet-up groups etc.,
But there is one another, that I want to mention, which is very special in my opinion and I am unable to find one beyond my college days – that is “Personal” – Personal friends tend to be childhood friends, school friends, family connections during childhood, childhood neighbors, or a friend with whom one has little in common career-wise but most in common as partners in all crimes.
Now, as we grow older, there are various dimensions that play out as an evolving human being and one tends to have more of personal and emotional friends. Let’s say 10 or 12 year-old isn’t debating marketing strategy with a colleague from work. But over a period of time, as one enter the workforce and mature, you develop specific intellectual interests (or not). You become intellectually curious. You take on professional/passion based interests and goals. For a broadly fulfilling friendship, one need more than pranks or playing sports together. One needs to be able to have a stimulating conversation.
So in my opinion, based on my own experience and of course, I have spoken to quite a few people in the age group of 20-30, to find an understanding – Can a personal & emotional friendship develop a meaningful intellectual …